God Wants a Loving Relationship with You

God created the heavens, the earth, the sea, and all that is in them.  Further, He gave humanity the supreme position in this physical creation.  There is, however, a spiritual (that is, invisible) dimension to creation as well.  God dwells in this invisible dimension to rule over all His creation through mankind.  Summing up, we rule the world and He rules us.  That’s not too much for a Creator to ask, is it?  Alas, many people think God is asking too much and they spend their lives here ignoring Him.

While it is possible to ignore God and resist a personal relationship with Him, it is impossible to ignore His rule over creation.  The seasons, the tides, the solar and lunar cycles – all these things happen without respect to human wishes.  Moreover, the consequences of human actions – both good and evil – are pervasive.  God is the one who brings about these consequences.  We may sow the seeds of thoughts, words, and deeds, but it is God who brings their harvest to us.  We can even resist acknowledging that He controls these things, but that doesn’t eliminate, or even reduce, His control of them.  The good news of Jesus Christ as made known through the Bible – and the reason He was willing to suffer an ignominious death on the cross – is that God is willing to forgive our previous resistance to His rule and accept us now as beloved children.

As a loving Father, God wants to explain to you how His world works.  He wants to be your Deliverer and not just your Judge.  He wants to show you the way in which you should live so as to gain the greatest satisfaction in life.  This satisfaction is not one of material riches, earthly glory, or worldly pleasures.  Instead, it is the satisfaction of knowing you have loved Him above all, and your neighbor as yourself.  Do you think Jesus was satisfied with the outcome of His life?  Surely He was.  He wants you to know that same satisfaction.

Life on earth is just the beginning of your relationship with God.  He wants to be your Father through all eternity.  Stop resisting.  Turn to Him who is invisible.  Trust that He sees you and cares for you.  Let Him forgive your sin and heal your conscience.  Then, through your conscience, serve Him in all that you think, say, and do.  Practice this way and He will become more and more real to you.

Can you relate to an invisible God?  Of course you can – through the part of you that is invisible to the rest of us.  Don’t look to anyone else to be a mediator between you and your Creator.  You don’t need a minister, a church, a synagogue, an imam, or even a religion.  Just relate to your Creator, Jesus.  He never intended that you should live lonely.  He intended you to enjoy a loving relationship with Him, a relationship with intimacies to which no one else is privy.

For more, see There Is No Trinity; There Is Christ.

40 Responses to God Wants a Loving Relationship with You

  1. Love it. You said it all very well. While I agree and believe with everything you said, I have not looked at it in the way you explained His rule in the things we cannot change. While we have the choice to rebel or obey, we dont always control the outcome. Thank you – it was a refreshing take on an argument I have heard before.

    You also win the “new word of the day” award for ignominious! Had to look that one up.

    Im in the midst of writing a bible study that would appeal to those with horses. This particular subject is covered in a chapter titled “We Need Each Other”. The parallel being that of a herd and how we were designed by our creator to desire fellowship and what keeps us from engaging in it. To my surprise when I sent this book out to several people to proof, this chapter received the most negative feedback from those who didn’t attend church. They did not like the challenge to pursue a relationship with God outside of the comfort of their car, home or barn.

  2. Mike says:

    They may have felt that practicing God’s love in the herd of which they were already a part (i.e., their family, friends, co-workers, etc.) was sufficient challenge, and that they did not need to join an additional herd for that purpose.

  3. They did feel that way. Hypocrisy and pressure to join was a complaint. However, my challenge for them to receiving teaching was the real objection. The “herd” they were comfortable in was not challenging them or questioning areas of growth in their life. Bear in mind these were all people who professed to be christian, but did not want to be held accountable for how they lived. Basically it was the “it’s not like I’m a murderer” argument.

  4. Mike says:

    Neither being a professing Christian nor attending a Bible study will lead to the kind of accountability and life change that you hope to see. A genuine turning to the Lord in faith produces both accountability and life change in anyone who practices it. God can deal with the secrets of our hearts, which is where all the mischief starts – whether it be murder, or less obvious forms of evil.

  5. Sam Daniels says:

    Here you have hit at the heart of my life-long dilemma with Christianity. Of all the belief systems in the world, including that of modern science, Christianity is, as far as I can tell, the only one based primarily upon a personal RELATIONSHIP. And — because I am a human being — all I have ever known about relationships has come from my interactions with other reality-based humans and living beings (dogs, cats, etc.)

    I think your explanations are some of the best I have ever read, and I have read a lot, including C. S. Lewis, Wm. James, Wm. Stringfellow, and George Macdonald to name but a few. But I remain unable to discern some characteristic within my own mind and heart which would point me outward from my own thoughts. I have read the Bible many times over the past 60 years, and books such as yours, and I understand the concept of “Faith” and “Belief”, but you might as well be talking about Unicorns.

    The Biblical narrative is as good an explanation for what we see in the world around us as any, but it is by no means the only one. How to break through this barrier between the real world and the unseen one has been the mission of my life.

    SD

    • Mike Gantt says:

      When I walk into a convenience store or bank, I sometimes notice a video camera in the ceiling or on the wall. I know that it is recording everything that takes place in the room. It might even be picking up sound as well. Therefore, I am conscious that someone, other than the people I see in the room, can see and hear me. In other words, I know that my movements are being monitored by someone in a dimension unseen by me.

      God is the “camera” who can see and hear not just my actions and words, but every single thought I have. I want to please Him and so I think, act, and speak so as seek His approval. Religion involves seek the approval of other people – specifically, religious people. Faith involves seeking the approval of God in all that we think, say, and do.

      Of course, there is more to a relationship with God than this. Nonetheless, this is the foundation of faith. (“All things are open and laid bare to the eyes of Him with whom we have to do” Hebrews 4:13; “Faith is the assurance of things hoped for and the conviction of things not seen” Hebrews 11:1; “He who comes to God must believe that He is and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him” Hebrews 11:6)

  6. Sam Daniels says:

    Thanks, Mike. Unfortunately for me, these are the stock responses. You know that someone unseen is watching you at the bank because you SEE the cameras. My pastor (in 1965) used the chair analogy (I trust that chair over there to hold me up even though I have never sat on it before). But just because I haven’t sat on EVERY chair doesn’t mean I have never sat on ANY chair.

    I cannot accept the “Free Will” arguments for a very simple and logical reason. I had no responsibility, volition, will, or choice about the fact of my own birth. I was born with a severe genetic deformity to a single mother who was a Billy Graham Puritan Calvinist and completely neurotic. Once I hit 21 I would have no more of it. I am not an “eternal soul”, because I had a beginning. Is it possible that I was conscious but unaware? That is illogical. Consciousness = awareness.

    If I understand you correctly, Humanity is God’s response to sinful angels. A way for good to defeat evil. My mind is asking — “WHAT was he thinking when he created angels?” It ultimately makes God the source of all Evil. I think that Free Will is an illusion. But whether it is or isn’t, I am going to live on in another dimension after I die anyway. In Heaven. You say. No matter what I do. Proving my point about free will. If you don’t see anything else, I want you to understand that.

    Having said all of that, I find your prose compelling. No less so your demeanor with people. No one else I have ever read or heard has seemed as clear and logical as you about these questions. I do deserve some kind of award for being able to type on this reply space which never stops jumping around.

    • Mike Gantt says:

      Unfortunately for me, these are the stock responses.

      It would have been, and still would be, presumptuous of me to think that I could offer a paragraph or two that would answer what has been a lifetime of searching for you.  So, when I do offer a response like this, please remember that it is just one beggar sharing his scrap of bread with another.

      You know that someone unseen is watching you at the bank because you SEE the cameras.

      Actually, all I SEE is something that LOOKS LIKE a camera.  I’m trusting that it actually IS a camera.  I’m trusting that there’s film in it.  I’m trusting that a human being is either looking, or else will later look, at its output.  Therefore, I’m trusting lots of things I can’t see that I’ve learned about cameras and surveillance during my life.  For me, it’s not that different from trusting that God is, and what He is like, based on things I’ve learned from reading the Bible.  But, if this analogy doesn’t work for you, then it doesn’t work and I don’t want to press it.

      My pastor (in 1965) used the chair analogy (I trust that chair over there to hold me up even though I have never sat on it before). But just because I haven’t sat on EVERY chair doesn’t mean I have never sat on ANY chair.

      Ironically, this is an analogy that has never worked for me either.  I don’t dispute it; I have just never “connected” with it for some reason.

      I cannot accept the “Free Will” arguments for a very simple and logical reason.

      I don’t know all the “Free Will” arguments, and don’t understand the ones I do know.  They are philosophical arguments and I’m not philosophically knowledgeable enough to deal with them.  I look at the issue from a more practical standpoint.  And that is that I have free will about some things (e.g. I can choose where on the earth I want to live – at least among the inhabitable and economically viable places known to me) but not others (i.e. I can’t live anywhere besides the earth – at least not for long).  I feel that this leaves me with many, many choices about where to live.  Therefore, for someone to argue that everyone going to heaven violates free will is an objection that doesn’t make sense to me.  There, as here, we will have great freedom of choice within broad boundaries (though our boundaries there will largely be determined by how morally we lived here).  To have it otherwise would be to make us each a supreme being, which is obviously illogical on its face.

      I had no responsibility, volition, will, or choice about the fact of my own birth.

      God told Jeremiah, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you” (Jeremiah 1:2).  Who’s to say that we didn’t have an existence (as angels?) before this life?  And who’s to say we didn’t have some choice about the station into which we would be born?  I am not asserting these ideas as truth; I am merely saying they seem possible.  Jesus certainly had an existence before His human life and He certainly had some choice about the station into which He was born – even if only to say yes or no to what was proposed to Him.  Therefore, these ideas are not unprecedented in human history.

      I was born with a severe genetic deformity to a single mother who was a Billy Graham Puritan Calvinist and completely neurotic. Once I hit 21 I would have no more of it.

      It must have been difficult, even in ways I cannot fully appreciate.

      I am not an “eternal soul”, because I had a beginning. Is it possible that I was conscious but unaware? That is illogical. Consciousness = awareness.

      A infant can be conscious without being fully aware of everything going on in the room.  A person recently awakened from a deep sleep can be conscious without being fully aware of things that the person who awakened him is.  A person with amnesia can be conscious and yet deprived of awareness that was previously his.  Therefore, consciousness can exist along a spectrum of awareness from dull to sharp, rudimentary to sophisticated, and so on.

      “Eternal soul” to me is like “Free Will” – an idea so big that my mind cannot fully grasp it.  Therefore, I have to find a practical way to deal with it.  And that practical way is, whatever my beginning, I am a soul here and now.  I have the promise of unending life before me.  Therefore, how can keep my soul so that it enjoys righteousness, peace, and joy on a daily basis?  To this issue the teachings of Jesus speak abundantly.

      If I understand you correctly, Humanity is God’s response to sinful angels. A way for good to defeat evil.

      Yes.

      My mind is asking — “WHAT was he thinking when he created angels?” It ultimately makes God the source of all Evil.

      There always comes a point in my contemplation of God, and I suppose in everyone’s, that I reach such a state.  That is, I get to the edge of my understanding and am perplexed without resolution.  This continues to happen even as God teaches us and expands the boundaries of our knowledge of Him.  At times like this, I remember Bible passages like Psalm 131 and Psalm 139 (especially verse 6).  And then there’s the book of Ecclesiastes that speaks so accurately and poignantly to the limitations of our musings.  I also think about my dog.  His ability to understand me is analogous to my ability to understand God.  My dog acts on the understanding he has of me, and trusts me for that which he doesn’t understand.  In any relationship, trust is required where knowledge is less than omniscient.

      I think that Free Will is an illusion. But whether it is or isn’t, I am going to live on in another dimension after I die anyway. In Heaven. You say. No matter what I do. Proving my point about free will. If you don’t see anything else, I want you to understand that.

      Alas, I don’t understand it…for the reasons I gave above.

      I do deserve some kind of award for being able to type on this reply space which never stops jumping around.

      I am sorry that commenting has been frustrating for you.  I have had no other reports of this kind of difficulty.  I tried to comment myself to replicate the problem, but all seems fine.  Perhaps you could report it to WordPress, which is the blogging platform I use.

  7. Sam Daniels says:

    Mike,

    Thanks for your thoughtful, point-by-point response. (The px I am having with the reply box may be related to my browser (i.e., javascript). I am therefore now composing and pasting from Windows Word.)

    Because I had clubbed feet as a child, and could barely walk let-alone run, I was bullied by both my peers and even gym teachers. My father abandoned us when I was five years old. (Why me, God?) It was at that time I began to develop what my wife refers to as “Armadillo skin”. When I retired in 2004, not only did I still have the disease I was born with, but I also had developed blood clots in my leg and twice in both lungs, and lost my colon to IBS — brought on, I suppose, by obsessive worry. So while I have been blessed with a lovely wife and daughter, I have gone through my own hell-on-earth.

    All this to say that life, death, heaven, hell, and God remain mysteries to me still. Even as you thoughtfully lay out the most concise summation of the some of these unknowns which I have ever read, it still boils down to this — it’s a mystery even to such as you. It is at THAT place that I assume Faith comes into play.

    All my life I have wanted — really yearned for — one unique and original thought or insight. As I have studied quantum mechanics (imagine me, an English major no less!), I am aware that science now shows us that there are probably parallel universes which exist side-by-side. But more importantly, we see that all of Reality is the result of the Observer, their own perspective and POV, and relative to him or her. And that by the very act of observation, Reality is changed. I don’t think we will ever be able to understand that, by its very nature and definition. But I now, at least, am closer to the insight I crave — the empirical connection between the “real” world we inhabit and the “unseen” world both scientists and theologians insist exists right here together in this same space. I think you would say that connection is Jesus. (Too “other world” for me). I think, if there is a God, he created in me an acute and sometimes painful awareness of Place. I left the place I grew up in to come to Yoknapatawpha County — the mythical setting of William Faulkner’s novels, and I found it 45 years ago in South Carolina rather than Oxford, Mississippi. Maybe it’s here. Perhaps not.

    I have a friend from college with whom I have kept in touch since 1971. While I consider her own life somewhat chaotic, whenever we speak of these things, it always boils down to this — she says “I love you. And God loves you. No matter what.” End of discussion. She once spoke to me of my excessive self-examination. I thought of her as I read your words on this topic. Too much introspection. Taking too far the dictum “The unexamined life is not worth living”. So when I requested from one of the ubiquitous preachers who almost weekly ring my front door bell that all I needed was a prayer from her to “find God”, I am somewhat struck by how one author invariably leads to another, and I have ended up now at your doorstep. It’s really eerie in a way. Another mystery, perhaps, but one I am open to.

    Thanks again. SD

    • Mike Gantt says:

      Sam, to anyone searching for the nexus of the seen and the unseen i can think of nothing more interesting than the story of the One whom came out of the unseen dimension to live in the seen dimension in order to return to the unseen dimension with us in tow.

      Beyond that, I will only add that I love you. And God loves you. No matter what.

  8. tolego says:

    Mike, I apologise for stepping in to your conversation but I feel uncharacteristically inspired to reply… I wanted to address this conumdrum with the presence of God. I’m not a christian, but am a deeply enquiring person. I have just come across your blog and am excited by what I have read, I hope you don’t mind that I put forth my own ‘method of contact’ for Sam.

    “And — because I am a human being — all I have ever known about relationships has come from my interactions with other reality-based humans and living beings (dogs, cats, etc.)”

    Sam, you are looking at the end product for the answer..I don’t think it’s there … its in the process.. God is not the other human or cat or dog… God is the ‘Relationship’ . God is in the love you feel for that other being.

    You are trying to see him in a physical presence with your eyes… stop looking…

    The ability to experience the manifestation of God (I believe) comes to us through the experience of emotions such as love, compassion, empathy, appreciation of beauty, creativity; through witnessing and reflecting the powerful energy of the life force (a seed changes into a tree, an embryo becomes a baby )… I feel that we are meant to be connected to the things and beings held within our world. It is not the world..it is the ‘connection’ to it that makes us aware of God’s presence.

    Step away from the insistence that you need to see him for real. Take a leap to let go of the fear of being misled or hurt and let the energy which is an expression of him to flow to you. Allow yourself to give in to the emotions of love . What have you got to lose? You might just feel happy … it may not be God at all but ‘happy ‘… ‘loving’… ‘compassionate’ are all very rewarding states of being.

    The ability to know God comes not from without, but is a state of being that comes from within yourself. You are the only one who can journey through your self to find the way to open the door to be able to experience his power.

    Stop examining and start feeling.

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  10. Kiyokuni Yamada says:

    Hello Mike,
    Do you think I’m following Christianity right? It’s my second year in following Christ, and I went through a lot of things in order to be in the place where I think I’m in the right relationship with God, but not sure with Christ. I started wanting to be a Christian because when I was in a Biology summer camp at Georgia Tech, a pastor evangelized me, and I felt this instant whiz into my body, feeling this peace that was unbelievable. So that was the reason why I decided to be one. But for a year, I wasn’t taking the right steps to be a follower of God for a whole year. For example, I was praying everyday, at least praying five times a day( including the prayer that I make when I eat), but nothing would come, or my prayers never gets answered. And I would never feel any bliss in me. I would try and follow every teachings that Jesus taught consciously such as loving everybody, but bad things instead came to me instead. For example, I there was a girl who needed help from Christ so I tried to help her, but instead of her getting more involved into Christ, she decided to become more attracted to me, so I had to stopped talking to her. I just prayed to God that she would someday get into Christ, and I just moved on. Another bad thing that happened to me was that my enthusiasm into education disappeared. I started to feel terrible about what I did back in the days how I did really well in Science Fair. And I would also lose enthusiasm into trying to study for the SAT during the summer. As a result, I believe I didn’t get a higher score like I should’ve. My tennis skills also dropped. I felt like when I got involved to Christ, I began to talk to people more, and worshipped him like crazy, but everything else went downhill. As a result, I felt like one of the ignorant people, and my parents were just hating me for being a jesus lover. I felt very liberal. I really regret it. But coming into senior year, I changed into where I would give it all to God, ask God for everything. I started to understand more how if you ask, you will be answered. So everyday I would try and listen to everything God would tell me. First, I tried being this happy guy, saying hi to everybody, even girls. But I realized that can’t be it because for people that’s smarter than me, they would hate me, only the ignorant people would. So I stopped saying hi, but would say hi to people only when appropriate. I would obviously say hi to my teachers, I would say hi if somebody said hi to me first, but i wouldn’t say hi to somebody first unless I know he likes me. Second, following God, my conscience became more clearer, and I started to learn to be able to listen to teachers better when they lecture. And my memory in reading got a lot better because of my clear conscience. Thirdly, because of my clear conscience, my tennis skills improved unbelievably. I finally learned how to hit a backhand, my forehand just became really good, and my flat serve became a lot faster. Fourth, following God, I would learn new things quickly. On my first try, I was able to withstand the forces when you ride tubing for a long time, and I became better at ping pong than my friends. Fifth, my enthusiasm over education grew, and envisioning of becoming a researcher, I decided to major in biomedical engineering at Georgia Tech this fall. Sixth, I grew very humble, stay away from girls, but be friends with the guys. But because majority of guys talk alot about bad things and gossip, I never would talk whenever they do so. I would only talk when it’s appropriate. Eighth, I naturally learned to control my emotions such as anger and laughter. Even though I get bad grades I can control myself better. Ninth, I would naturally incline to watch news more than anything else. So I feel like I’m naturally following God’s principles. I feel like I’ve unconsciously gained courage and strength. I feel like I’m choosing the right people to talk with, and so forth.

    I think God is making me like this because in order to become who I want to be, I need to be careful what I do, and I need to work hard. So I think I am loved by Jesus because I am doing everything for the Glory of God. Do you think I’m following the right pathway? Do you think in a way I am following Christ? But different from other people?

    Kiyo

  11. Kiyokuni Yamada says:

    So becoming a pastor is the only way?

  12. Susanne Schuberth (Germany) says:

    I know that sharing His love every day takes time of remembering and waiting. But it pays to wait for Him, since a loving relationship with God…it’s not a love beneath ‘Ordinary Love’, it’s more than this. However, I never thought that He would turn my world upside down like this (I’m thinking of this extraordinary, somehow extraterrestrial spiritual marriage between our true Redeemer Husband and His Bride).

  13. Kiyokuni Yamada says:

    Do you believe Tim Tebow, or Bubba Watson, or John Lennox are having a good relationship with God?

  14. KY says:

    So Jesus Christ is supposed to be number one in my life? And God is…second? It doesn’t make sense. Is God supposed to be another name for Jesus? For example, everybody calls me Kiyo but my real name is Kiyokuni?

    • KY says:

      But God isn’t Jesus. God is God, and Jesus is Jesus. They are two different…human. Jesus is the son of God, so we should follow God.

      • Mike Gantt says:

        “…God has given us eternal life, and this life is in His Son. He who has the Son has the life; he who does not have the Son of God does not have the life.” – 1 John 5:11-12

      • KY says:

        Mike, when I first had a relationship with God, as I told you, during classroom time I would listen to Him telling me to listen to the teacher’s lecture. But during break times I stop worrying about the school work and start talking with people, having fun with them. And that was how it was during my first few months with God. Class time- work, break time- having fun with people, loving them. But my confidence with I was doing started breaking when I hear “Jesus Christ”. I don’t know perfectly why, but is it because I didn’t spare enough time talking with people? Anyway that’s when I lost confidence with my relationship, and through senior year, that’s when I started to not talk with people much not loving them, and closed my shell. Now, I’m here not being able to jog, tennis, work, etc. because I don’t know what to do. Does Jesus Christ really like me? For what I used to do? And what I’m going to do later on like biomedical engineering?

        • KY says:

          I hope I get my confidence back again serving Jesus Christ.

        • Mike Gantt says:

          One of the things that can make the reading of Scripture difficult is the need to read it in context. That’s not as easy with an anthology of ancient documents like the Bible as it is with a book written today.

          Matthew recounts the words Jesus spoke to His fellow Jews almost two thousand years ago. While the moral principles remain the same, many of the specific applications no longer apply. One obvious example is that we don’t present a physical offering on a physical altar in Jerusalem (Matthew 5:23) as they did. However, we do present our lives as an “offering” on the “altar” of our faith. Thus, if you do your engineering work as an “offering” to Him, He will be glad to receive it. To do this means to do your very best, being completely honest in all your ways, doing your work for the love of God and people, then you make engineering a sacred act of worship. In your life outside of work you can live with this same attitude, seeking to be serve the needs of others instead of seeking to have them meet your needs.

          More than outward acts, God is concerned with your inward motivations. The life of Jesus Christ demonstrates this.

  15. KY says:

    I understand that Jesus is God after he rose from the dead, but before that He was a man who died for us to save us. So isn’t there two things that is important to live? One is having joy with life thanking Jesus as a man for dying for us and having fun loving each other because he freed us from sin, but another of Jesus as God to have relationship with him one on one where I am pursuing what God wants me to do on Earth? Which maybe being a pastor, or being an engineer, a soldier, or farmer, governor, etc.?

  16. Susanne Schuberth (Germany) says:

    ‘God dwells in this invisible dimension to rule over all His creation through mankind. Summing up, we rule the world and He rules us.’

    Mm, I love the perfect wording here. And I love how you make me smile, by continuing:

    ‘That’s not too much for a Creator to ask, is it?’ 😉

    Sometimes words just can’t explain completely the nitty-gritty, however, you did it perfectly.

    When I find myself from time to time, somehow, standing alone but still believing that all the glory and love of the world can not compare with the loving relationship Jesus offers to everybody, I try to convince myself that it is all about just taking another step on the long way home between earth, moon and heaven with His help since I am too weak (one might also say with Him it is like “taking the long way home – by rocket, and no longer by car” 🙂 ).
    Therefore, there is no looking back for me anymore because all has become far better with Jesus; I know, He’ll always be my number one, to whom I confess, “My Lord, and God – Oh, I know it’s true that I need you, whatever I do.”

  17. Chris says:

    Is it wrong to have deep loving feelings for God? As weird as that sounds. Please respond because it is starting to happen! I have a loving tender heart and I feel Him wanting it. it’s so strong and powerful.

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